09/10/2026
The most painful thing wasn't always what people said. It was what they didn't.
For a long time, I didn't talk about my baby. I could feel how uncomfortable it made people, how conversations fell silent, and how quickly the subject changed.
So I stopped talking.
But over time, I've realised how important it is to speak about our babies. Because every time I share my story, someone tells me theirs. A miscarriage years ago. An ectopic pregnancy. A baby they've never felt able to talk about again.
Baby loss is far more common than many people realise, yet so many parents carry their grief in silence, wondering if anyone remembers their baby.
That's why Baby Loss Awareness Week matters.
If you've lost a baby, I see you. Your baby matters. Their life matters. And you should never have to feel that you must keep their memory quiet to make others comfortable.
And if someone you know has experienced baby loss, you don't need the perfect words. Say their baby's name. Ask about them. Let them know their baby hasn't been forgotten.
On Thursday 15 October at 7pm, I'll be lighting a candle for my son, Jackson. đź’› If you'd like to, join me in remembering your baby, too.
Let's be less quiet. Let's make space for their stories, their names and their memories.