Men's Fear

11/04/2024

Your mind has to be stronger than your feelings…. Your feelings keep you in bed, your mind says get up ~ Tim Glover

05/25/2023

You didn’t come this far to only come this far. —ANONYMOUS

05/24/2023

That thing we call intuition? It’s your soul. You can trust it. —ANONYMOUS

04/20/2023

A friend told me his daughter’s boyfriend had invited him to have dinner and he thought the young man was going to ask for his daughter’s hand in marriage. He asked me, “What do I ask him? How does this work?” “I know what I’ll do when I get that call,” I said. “What?” he asked. “I will say, ‘Great. I’ll look forward to it.’ Then, if he does ask for her hand, I will say, ‘Let’s get together again. Bring your tax returns from the past two years and your credit report. We can talk some more then,’” I said. My friend laughed and said, “Right. But seriously. What will you say?” “I told you. I am serious,” I replied. “That’s crazy,” he said. “I don’t want him to think I’m interested in how much money he has. That’s kind of rude,” he said. “I don’t care about the money,” I said. “Tell him to white out the numbers if he wants. What I want to know is, does he even have the tax returns and the credit report? Does he have the ability to manage his life in such a competent way that he can even find his tax returns and a document showing how he has managed his commitments to lenders? If he can’t be trusted to manage his own life, how can my daughter trust him to manage their life together? I’m looking for trustworthiness, not big balances or income,” I said.
~ Trust, know when to give & when to withhold it..

03/30/2023

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.
~Teddy Roosevelt

03/03/2023

If there is a gap in how our parents raised us, we look to others to fill it. And if there is a gift in how our parents raised us, we look to others to give us the same. ~ 8 rules of love

02/04/2023

February 4

Don’t let fear throw you off balance

Lay a two-by-four on the ground and walk its length without falling off. Easy, isn’t it? Now place a couple of bricks under the two-by-four, raising it off the ground by a few inches. Walk it again. A little harder this time? Now imagine that same two-by-four suspended at the height of your house with no safety net under it. Would you care to try again?

The higher the stakes, the harder it is to maintain our balance. That’s what fear does in our lives.

When we’re faced with simple situations in life, it’s easy to do the right thing. But as the stakes get higher and higher, it becomes increasingly difficult to focus on the task. We imagine “what ifs” and what might happen if we fail.

Look at the two-by-fours that you have to cross every day in your life. Are you allowing fear of a worst-case scenario to upset your balance? Put the situation back on the ground. Rarely will failure result in permanent damage. Remove the fear that your mind has created around the possibility of failure and just walk along the plank.

God, help me do the tasks that I have to without the balance-upsetting confusion brought by fear. Help me do what is right simply and easily each day.

~ Language of Letting Go

01/13/2023

ATrueStory
I’m sitting in a quiet room at the Millcroft Inn,
a peaceful little place hidden back among the pine trees about an hour out of Toronto. It’s just past noon, late July, and
I’m listening to the desperate sounds of a life-or-death struggle going on a few feet away.
There’s a small fly burning out the last of its short life’s energies in a futile attempt to fly through the glass of the windowpane. The whining wings tell the poignant story of the fly’s strategy—try harder.
But it’s not working.
The frenzied effort offers no hope for survival. Ironically, the struggle is part of the trap. It is impossible for the fly to try hard enough to succeed at breaking through the glass. Nevertheless, this little insect has staked its life on reaching its goal through raw effort and determination.
This fly is doomed. It will die there on the windowsill.
Across the room, ten steps away, the door is open. Ten seconds of flying time and this small creature could reach the outside world it seeks. With only a fraction of the effort now being wasted, it could be free of this self- imposed trap. The breakthrough possibility is there. It would be so easy.
Why doesn’t the fly try another approach, something dramatically different? How did it get so locked in on the idea that this particular route, and determined effort, offer the most promise for success? What logic is there in continuing, until death, to seek a breakthrough with “more of the same”?
No doubt this approach makes sense to the fly. Regrettably, it’s an idea that will kill.
“Trying harder” isn’t necessarily the solution to achieving more. It may notofferanyrealpromiseforgettingwhatyouwantoutoflife. Sometimes,in fact, it’s a big part of the problem.
If you stake your hopes for a breakthrough on trying harder than ever, you may kill your chances for success.
–Price Pritchett

07/13/2022

I wanted to change the world. But I have found that the only thing one can be sure of changing is oneself. —ALDOUS HUXLEY

07/13/2022

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage. —ANAÏS NIN

06/09/2022

As Coco Chanel once said, “Don't spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door.”

06/06/2022

When our actions are based on good intentions, our soul has no regrets. —Anthony Douglas Williams

03/22/2022

If you don’t make the time to work on creating the life that you want, you’re going to spend a lot of time dealing with a life you don’t want. —Kevin Ngo

03/22/2022

Somebody should tell us, right at the start of our lives, that we are dying. Then we might live life to the limit, every minute of every day. Do it! I say. Whatever you want to do, do it now! There are only so many tomorrows. —Michael Robbins

03/22/2022

Your journey is determined by the choices you make. Your answers are determined by the questions you ask. Your destination is determined by the steps you take. Your future is determined by what you do today.
~Life by design

03/22/2022

Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do. —John Wooden

10/25/2021

I believe we all have a destiny version of ourselves, the person we were born to be. The version of us that took risks. The version that walked the road less traveled, overcame adversities and achieved our true potential. I think of it like we all have a twin. This version of us who’s lived the life we are born to live and reached our full potential. That person is waiting for us on the other side after we pass. When my time here is finished, and I meet my maker, it is my hope that the Lord tells me, “Well done, good and faithful servant.” I also envision a sort of ceremonial exit where I am introduced to the man I was born to be, that I was supposed to be and destined to be. I want to shake hands with that man, and I want to be his identical twin. I don’t want there to be a huge gap between my reality and the man I had the potential to be. Instead I want them to be perfectly matched; that’s my mission. Every decision I make, every action I take, is measured against one simple question: Will this get me closer to the man I was born to be? That is how you ! I hope to teach and share with you some of the methods I’ve used to improve the key areas of my life. I believe this book gives you definitive steps towards achieving the ultimate and best version of you. The YOU that you were born to be.
~Maxout your life

10/21/2021