Earth Elements

09/30/2026

Omgoodness

09/30/2026

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“But they’re still your parents” should never be used to silence the pain of an adult child who has spent years trying to keep a dysfunctional relationship alive.

In many unhealthy families, the child becomes responsible for everyone else’s emotions. They learn to keep the peace, apologize first, stay quiet, forgive quickly, and tolerate behavior that continues to hurt them.

Then, when they finally set boundaries, the family may call them selfish, disrespectful, difficult, or ungrateful.

But a boundary is not rejection. It is not revenge. And it is not punishment.

Sometimes a boundary simply says: I can love you without continuing to abandon myself.

Healing often means unlearning the belief that being a “good child” requires unlimited access, endless forgiveness, or silence about what happened.

You are allowed to protect your peace.
You are allowed to expect accountability.
You are allowed to stop carrying the entire relationship by yourself.
And you are allowed to choose distance when closeness continues to harm you.

📚 I Didn’t Choose to Be Born explores emotional neglect, dysfunctional family roles, narcissistic and emotionally unavailable parenting, people-pleasing, childhood survival patterns, boundaries, and healing the wounds we carry into adulthood.

❤️ Chasing Love That Hurts explores how those early wounds can later appear in romantic relationships through anxious attachment, limerence, emotional obsession, and repeatedly chasing unavailable love.

Both books are available through the link in my bio.

09/25/2026

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05/20/2024

The majority of us lead quiet, unheralded lives as we pass through this world. There will most likely be no ticker-tape parades for us, no monuments created in our honor. But that does not lessen our possible impact, for there are scores of people waiting for someone just like us to come along; people who will appreciate our compassion, our unique talents. Someone who will live a happier life merely because we took the time to share what we had to give. Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have a potential to turn a life around. It’s overwhelming to consider the continuous opportunities there are to make our love felt. ~Leo Buscaglia
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Living Loving and Learning

12/15/2023

New Boho Vibes 🌅

12/06/2023

New designs in time for Christmas 🌲

11/20/2023

Sympathy is easy because it comes from a position of power.
Empathy is looking someone else in the eye and realizing that you could be them and that all that separates you is luck.

10/05/2023

Off to the woods I go 🖤